"Hi, I am currently going through a divorce. I have experienced domestic violence and abuse from my estranged husband after I gave birth to our child. I had been considering divorce but I felt that I was not ready mentally, emotionally and financially.

I moved out of my matrimonial home together with my child before I applied for Personal Protection Orders at the Family Justice Court for both myself and my child.All of my money which was in our joint bank account was withdrawn by my estranged husband.

After giving birth, I went to visit a psychiatrist at KKH as I suspected that I have postpartum depression. However, the psychiatrist informed me that I showed symptoms of depression due to my family of origin, which I am not surprised.

I feel that I may have developed symptoms of anxiety over the years. I have been experiencing burnout and somewhat been on survival mode but moving forward, I am hoping to thrive.

I have been a homemaker and I do not have the mental and physical capacity to return to the workforce yet. I hope to be resilient for both myself and my child in dealing with post-separation abuse."

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• Written in Oct 2024

• Having fortnightly sessions for 6 months at IASH

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"I am Amanda, a single mother of 3 young children. 

My story with my ex-husband started like many others—full of hope and promise. For 18 years, we built a life together, 8 of those spent married. We had three beautiful children, and they quickly became the center of my world. I believed we were partners, building a future for our family, but cracks began to show in ways I didn’t fully understand at the time. His behavior shifted slowly—little things, like his increasing irritability and how he’d grow distant without explanation. I tried to be patient, assuming the pressure of work and family was taking a toll on him. But out of nowhere, he asked for a divorce. The suddenness of it hit me like a wave, but worse was the way he blamed me for everything. He said I was the source of all our problems, as if everything that had gone wrong was my fault. 

I later discovered the truth—he had been unfaithful for some time. The betrayal was devastating. Everything I thought we had built together crumbled. It became clear that he had already moved on, emotionally and physically, even before the divorce was finalized. Just two weeks after the papers were signed, he remarried, and I learnt that he’d already had a 7 month old child with his new wife. It felt like the years we’d spent together meant nothing to him. 

The divorce process stretched over two long years, leaving me emotionally and financially drained. I went through a dark period, as depression took hold. He continued to gaslight me, painting me as the villain and turning others against me, all while I tried to keep myself together for our children. Even now, after the divorce, the struggle continues. He uses every opportunity to tear me down. His new wife is now a part of my children’s lives, which complicates everything further. He continues to berate and manipulate me, and it feels like the conflict will never end. 

Despite everything, I’ve had to remain strong. I’m both mother and father to my children, working hard to give them the love and stability they deserve. The emotional scars run deep, but my resilience has only grown. I’m determined to keep fighting for a peaceful future for myself and my kids, no matter how hard the past or present has been."​

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• Written in Oct 2024

• Having fortnightly sessions for 6 months at IASH

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I am Mama Bear with a 3 year old young Bear Cub. I am in the midst of a long divorce with Papa Bear who walked out on the family when Baby Bear was a mere 6 months leaving me to tend to baby bear and all his needs alone. In the last 3 years, papa bear has never initiated or reached out to us to check if we are doing ok or well.   Recently Baby Bear has started calling his classmate’s dad Papa and being really confused about who his papa bear really is. As much as I have tried reading up on parenting methods, how to parent effectively as a single mom and how not to pass on any generation trauma to my Baby Bear, I can’t help but feel sad and devastated to see how confused my Baby Bear is about his identity and who his Papa Bear really is.   I hope that these therapy sessions can help me become a gentler and well-informed mama bear to my baby bear so I can help him feel loved and supported in his growing up years.

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• Written in Nov 2024

• Having fortnightly sessions for 6 months at IASH